The time I have spent off the blog was replaced by another familiar internet entity, Facebook. I joined Facebook and it wasn’t long before I decided that my blog was no longer the best way for me to express myself. First off, I was noticing that most of my blog posts had to do with my kids and not so much with parenting, a.k.a. I was dong a lot of complaining. I was also noticing that on Facebook I was receiving much more instant gratification, where the blog was a slower process to get people to comment. So I went from having to type long(ish) tomes to short bursts of information while getting likes and comments all within minutes and hours. Seemed like a no brainer for a mom who had very little time to herself. Plus I was able to catch up with friends and family in an instant, no phone calls or emails. The hard work I was putting into being a mom was being offset by this very readily accessible way to communicate with the outside world.
This past school year I had the opportunity of having both kids in school full time and I noticed a switch in my priorities as far as communicating with my friends and family. No longer do I intently check Facebook at multiple times of the day to see how everyone else is experiencing life. No longer do I post multiple times a week or day to receive that instant gratification. What has changed? I no longer craved to be part of the “Look at me and what I am doing right now” crowd. I think while my children are growing up and experiencing the expansion of their world, I am experiencing a similar phenomenon.
There is an ebb and flow throughout our lives, whether we are aware of it or not. Physical development from when we were young, mental development as we grow up and intellectual and/or career development as we grow older. I seem to be hypersensitive to these changes in myself and my children. I have made a point to educate myself on how to best guide my kids through their ebbs and flows, most of which is just common sense. When they were young they developed so quickly and now as they are getting older it has slowed down, but for me, become even more rewarding to assist them in becoming independent. I know that they are not mine to keep and want them to be the best adults they can be with me always there on the sidelines.
Now that it is my turn to focus a little more on myself, I find myself being more reflective and less instantaneous. What do I want to do for the family and my career? Less and less posts on Facebook have turned me into a stalker of others and less of a sharer. I do find the need to share my thoughts and so here I am back on the blog. With some ideas for my career in motion and the groundwork being laid, I will reveal my plans when the time presents itself. Until then, you will be able to enjoy my thoughts on a much deeper level than Facebook can provide. Ebb and flow, so I join you to come with me while I go with the flow!
It’s been 6 years to the day since I last created a post. I have spent that time being a mom of two very cool children, ending a job, volunteering my time at the kids’ preschool and local library. The main focus of that time off has been the kids, local causes and trying to figure out what I want to do when they grow up.
One thing I am very excited about is that my children are growing up to become very interesting, yet very different people. The kids are now old enough to experience the world and we are getting back to traveling. A goal that my husband and I had (some many years ago) is to travel all 50 of these United States. We have been to a most of the states up and down the east coast and a coupe on the west coast, but I think it’s time to expose the kids to the many different areas of this country. We recently went to Ricketts Glen State Park in Pennsylvania for some camping and hiking. I cannot wait to share with you our experiences and the spectacular views we captured.
As I mentioned, I am trying to figure out what I want to do when the kids grow up. I have some ideas rattling around my head and thought this was a good place to brainstorm. Traveling has allowed me to get away from the routine and open my mind to new experiences. Being a mom has given me confidence and the kids have become my inspiration. I want to show them that ideas can become realities if you keep at it and follow through. So, this is me starting yet another journey and sharing it with you.
We have slowed down on the events during the weekends and it is really nice. This weekend we found a new place to go hiking, tried a different time during the day to go out on our excursion and geocached for the first time in years.
The weather was perfect for hiking with low humidity in the upper 70s. The hikes were great and Aiden did very well going up the mountain carefully. He loved being the leader and making sure we were on the correct path. We did this in the late afternoon after Alina’s nap, which worked out beautifully and they went to bed without any issue. Aiden also got a kick out of “finding treasure” with the geocache. I’m sure it will be no time before he is using the GPS on his own! All in all, we had a wonderful weekend and hope that there are many more like it in the future.
Alina is starting to become a functioning being instead of a demanding baby. She was throwing everything off her tray at lunch the other day and I disciplined her (as usual) to not do it adding that she should put anything she is finished with on the table or give it to Mommy. She, of course, cried because she does not like to be told what to do. Well, at dinner that same night she was eating and when she didn’t want whatever she had she looked at me and put it on the table. I was so proud! Aside from the signing, this was the first time that she actually showed she was paying attention to what I was saying. I am so looking forward to when Aiden goes to school so I can have some one-on-one time with her. I think she will progress very nicely when I don’t have to juggle Aiden too. I’ve felt like I’ve been ignoring her with certain things and hope that I can fill in the gaps during our alone time. Let the bonding begin (in September)!
Well, Aiden has officially entered the “why” phase. He doesn’t just say “Why?”, oh no. He asks when he is missing something. For example, he was in the bathroom and I was playing with Alina when I told her, “No thank you.” Aiden called from the bathroom, “Why did you say No thank you to Alina? What did she do cause I couldn’t see it?” This kid is going to go crazy when he is in school and feels like he is missing a lot at home. Not to mention that I am going crazy explaining everything in simplistic yet descriptive ways. After the third why I tell him that we need to move on to another subject because Mommy needs to stop talking about the current issue. He is going to be one educated little tyke in preschool. I wish his teacher well!